The Online/Social Predator is one who uses the mechanisms of cyber
space to hunt human beings with the intent to exploit, rob, plunder
and pillage their body, mind, heart and/or soul. If you're lucky, they're
only after your money and time. If you're not lucky.....you could end
up as a murder statistic.
While vampires themselves can be - and often are - called predators
and have predatory natures, THIS particular definition relates to
the negative online/social predators only, as defined above. One way
of looking at it is that there are "good predators" and
"bad predators". This will give you warning signs to keep
you away from the "bad predators".
You should make a conscious effort to observe the person's interactions
with others, not just how s/he interacts with you. They may be too good
to slip up when talking to you, but their interactions with others may
reveal their true self. However, you have to be committed to taking
every precaution for YOUR OWN SAFETY. The best defense you have
against an online/social predator is your own common sense and judgment.
If you have a voice whispering that "something is not right"
or "this is too good to be true"....that little voice is probably
Don't believe everything you read - just because someone online tells
you that they are 15 doesn't mean they are telling the truth. Even adults
can't tell when a male pretends to be a female or a 50 year old pretends
to be a 15 year old.
COMMON PHRASES USED BY SOCIAL PREDATORS
Do not tell ________ .
( ________ ) is crazy ! ( or psycho, sick, a liar, or out to get me)
It would be best if you no longer spoke to ________.
I do not need to defend myself against lies.
They are just jealous ( of me / of us / of what we have / that you
have me ).
COMMON ACTIONS BY SOCIAL PREDATORS
Becomes defensive or angry when questioned.
Questions the sincerity of the person asking, when questioned.
Brings up bad situations before you ask, dismisses them as being false
allegations, and counters with "reasons" and "past history"
showing that they are more honorable than they really are.
Discourages or forbids you to check "references" by asking
other people's opinion of them.
CHARACTERISTICS OF A SOCIAL
- Liar: ( Self
- Deceiver: His
self situation is presented as other than what it is.
- Betrayer: He
is likely to break trust.
- Insecure: He
is worried that others will be faithless.
He will say one thing while doing another.
- Lacking Honor:
Usually while protesting that he has honor.
- Lack of Respect:
He will tend to denigrate others.
He is unlikely to have many long term friends.
He calculates and contrives for his own benefit to the detriment of
He will tend to cloak himself and his activities.
- Charming: If
he could not steal your breath away, he would not be a successful hunter.
He will pick victims carefully, looking for weaknesses and filling those
He will appear to fit any need perfectly and adapt to fill any desire.
- Lacking in Self Control:
Although at times, he may have extraordinary self control and discipline.
"I feel s/he is just too good to be true." - they probably
You are hearing consistent warnings from more that one person.
Your instincts are whispering something is not right about this person.
Frequent inconsistencies - if someone often makes contradictory statements
from one day to the next, like Mon. tells you s/he has no children,
then on Fri., mentions his/her son's birthday or something. If a person
often seems to have a lot of trouble remembering what they have said
to you from one day to the next, it could be that they are telling a
lot of people a lot of different things.